30 Days of Me Day #2

The meaning behind my blog name...Bits and Bites just came to me really..it sounds catchy and really just lets you know before you read, that you are going to get "Bits" and "Bites" of my mundane life....I suppose on a deeper level it can really represent what we all go through in life...the good and the bad...the "Bits" that we leave with those that we love, those that we cherish...And the "Bites" that are taken from us, that knock us down, take our breath away and make us cry....While I hope that I blog way more about Bits, I know that Bites are a part of life, and sometimes sharing that pain with others, helps immensely.

So, in true blogger spirit, and to make this a little more interesting on Day #2, here are some Bits and Bites from my life...Enjoy!

Bits
I am very fortunate in one BIG bit of my life, and thats in my husband...Those of you that know Moose, know what a funny and charming man he is...But what you may not know, is what I see on a daily basis behind closed doors....Malik is everything that I could ask for in a husband and best friend...He listens, he cares, and he makes me laugh...At one point and time in my life, I was VERY lonely, and really just did not know what God held for me in the way of companionship...To me the outlook was very bleak...Relationships seemed to be something that were a constant downer, and being a single mom makes it 10X harder...To top it off, I just couldnt see myself ever really being married, because I didnt really know what that connection would be like that would make any person want to grow old with the same face every day...I thought that I knew what I wanted in a partner, and it always seemed that the people I was dating, just needed "one" more thing to make them perfect....Malik came along, and truly has shown me that God knows what is best us all...He possesses so many qualities that I wasnt even aware that I would need in order to be happy...Malik and I have been through more in the last 4 years than most couples do in a lifetime...Me moving from MT, and moving in with Malik ASAP, even though that wasnt the plan...Malik becoming a Dad instantly...A whirlwind marriage in order to be able to stay together through an international move, a deployment not even a year into our marriage, then the loss of a son during our second year of marriage...Through this all, we have grown stronger...Malik has a huge BIT of me, and I cherish him everyday...Malik is someone who I can laugh, cry, yell and make a fool of myself with and feel at heart that he doesnt love me any less because of it...He is a BIT to my life, because he demonstrates unconditional love...No expectations, no boundaries, no rules....Just his hand in mine :>)

BITES
I have had quite a few BITES in my short lifetime, as most of us have...Once you step outside the domain of your parents house, you learn quite literally how harsh the real world is, and how little you actually knew, despite how much you thought you knew...Money comes and goes (most of the time GOING) and bills dont...Those that you thought you would be best friends with forever, slowly drift off into their own lives, Highschool really was much more fun than working everyday, even if you do have your own apartment...Getting stoned was much cooler and more entertaining when you were in school..And boys still suck until they are 40....I have had a lot more serious BITES that have made me not want to get out of bed....sucked the joy out of my body, changed my whole world in a matter of minutes..What I have learned through all of my life scars, is that some things are truly not worth worrying about...Its hard, its easier said than done...I know...But life is so short, so precious, that everything cannot be alloted the same time and dedication ...I am a huge fan of "brushing" your shoulders off....This is not to say that I dont get stressed, or that I am not a worry wart..In face it takes alot in me to brush things off....But allowing the things people say, or what they might think to rent space in your mind is a dangerous and silly practice...Spend your tears, love, sweat and mind on the things that will matter in 6 months or a year...Mourn those who you lose, love those you have, sweat the important things, and mind that you dont forget to remember BITS when you are in the middle of BITES....