I just wanted to check in...I haven't blogged in a minute because I really havent been inspired to...But I enjoy it so I wanted my followers to know that I havent forgotten about you all! Here are some random fill in questions that I borrowed from Ms. Doris! :)
1.Have you and your spouse agreed to live in separate locations (a geographical bachelor tour) knowing that the short-term inconvenience would have long-term benefits for your family? How did it work for you? Malik and I have never agreed to live in separate locations simply because it has never been something that has been an real option. We know that he could possibly have to do a one year tour unaccompanied and we have discussed that. We have also had discussions about him volunteering for tour just so that we can have a base of preference when its over with. Untimately, I think that being seperated like that as a couple and family really is hard to do. I know people that have done it, survived and gone on with their lives none the worse for wear, but I also know those whose family has fallen apart. I think that if we were seriously considering this, the long term payoffs would have to be very substantial. However, I think alot of times that i would rather him "volunteer" for a tour and we be able to make the preparations etc than being "told" that he has to do one and not feeling like we have any control over our lives.
2. What is your favorite thing about being a MilSpouse? There are so many things that I love about being a mil spouse. I would have to say that the opportunity to move and meet so many people from different walks of life is so awesome! I have made some great friends that I can never replace and I owe that to the military taking me out of my element and plopping me in a new area. I think that being a Mil Spouse builds so much character and well roundedness inside you..
3. If you could still have your spouse/significant other and your family, but take the military life out of it…would you? I dont think i would...as hard as the military can be for us, and the amount of stress that we have dealt with in the past, I wouldnt trade it...I think we would miss out on so much more positive than negative...Like so many have said, our military lifestyle really has made us who we are as parents, partners and people,
4. What have your homecoming experiences been like after a year long tour of separation? I have not ever experienced a year long tour, but simply short TDYs and 6 month deployments. Its odd at first because you are excited to see each other, but you have to readjust alot of things. I think the military does a lot to help families cope with reintegrating members and their families. I know that its hard when you as the spouse have been taking care of everything and then all the sudden your hubby is back and your whole routine is messed up....I know the thing in particular that drove my husband nuts when he came back was that he forgot where things were located in the house like the scissors etc...
5. If you have a child(ren) why you chose their name(s)? If not, why you would name your child something? We have one son named Jaden...I actually chose the name because we could not agree on anything then in class one day a fellow student of mine said her sister had her baby and named him Jaden and I loved it...So thats what we went with...Now everybody and their sisters babies are named Jaden,Hayden,Caiden etc....But at least Jaden is spelled a bit differently than the norm JAYDEN....His middle name comes from a grandfather..My son who passed at 3 days of age was named Maximus...I love that name because to me it symbolizes strength...Thats a name that you have to live up to..You cant be a Maximus and be weak or of poor character. He also took Edward as his middle name from a grandfather.
