Well...as much as the next woman, I hate the idea of aging...I have to say that this month has been a double buster of the "you-are-getting-old-woman" voice in my head...For beginners, its my birthday month, and I have reached that year where most women choose to stay at for the rest of their life...29..well wait, before you start calling me 29, i technically have 8 more days of being 28...and believe me, I am hanging onto them like that cat hanging from the tree limb with the catchy slogan HANG IN THERE! that some genius seems to thinks relate to highschoolers...Anyways, I am off track..(Must be the age). I am honestly curious to see whether crisis' are genetic...I remember my mom telling me she had a breakdown at 30 and called her mom bawling her eyes out asking if this was how life felt...LOL..I laughed then..Now I think I may have one coming my way...Lets not forget that I had a mini breakdown two years ago when I was walking around telling my coworkers that I was about the be 30, then was so graciously saved by my good friend who informed me I was actually only going to be 28..(Thanks Brooke)...Needless to say, turning another year older brings alot of deep feelings to the surface...For one, I have started to analyze EVERYTHING in my life...If I dont get fit before I turn 30...then its all down hill...If I dont have another child before i am 30, then its all down hill...If I dont start College and take it seriously, then its all down hill...If I don't start removing my makeup EVERY night before bed and slathering my face with anti age moisturizer, then its (EVERYONE SAY IT WITH ME) ITS ALL DOWN HILL! uggg....Someone give me a martini! The second blow this month, was my TEN YEAR HIGH SCHOOL REUNION...I stressed and fretted over this event for the last 6 months...Worried for what I do not know...Then as it pulled closer, I became so overtly excited to see all my close friends...Friends whom I have never been able to replace..Friends who I may not talk to for months, or years, but we pick upright where we left off...It was so great to be around friends who were the same age, who shared the same griefs over family, husbands, kids and aging...To be able to act like we were still seniors in highschool...to break out extremely embarrassing photos and stories (thanks again Brooke) and to just laugh...I laughed so much during those few days, I swear I got a jumpstart on my fantasy six pack...The best part of this month was my trip to Montana...I got to see family...My brothers, dad and stepmom...To hang out and relax..Plus they all got to see Jaden..Which is always a plus for them...I think my favorite part of being with my family, is going to my brother Mikes property and camping out for the night...I felt like I had lost touch with my Montanan roots by traveling around so much..I had not camped in YEARS...The fresh air, the trees, the cold night air & a camp fire...I wanted Jaden to experience what Montana is about...Its not about video games, trips to Walmart where you spend money on useless items out of boredom...Montana is about hard work..rough hands, dirty work clothes (dont believe me...Look at any guys hands from Montana)...its about trucks, boots and, huge fish & deer, and FRESH AIR...To be able to see my Dad sit down around a campfire was such a treat...My whole life, my Dad has been working..always some project at hand, some chore to do..something to weld, something to fix..something to move...SO when he sat down in a chair, chatted it up around a campfire...I felt great...Leaving Montana was really bittersweet...I missed my husband, my bed, my cats...But on the plane I already missed many things about MOntana... my heart hurts that I cannot move my family TO Montana...Someday I hope to combine all the elements of my life that I love into one place...and I hope that place is Montana...
So now that I am back in Mississippi...I face my 29th Birthday in a week...My 20 year reunion, which I know will come ALL too fast, and a variety of other life milestones, but in the words of a very wise and very missed friend...Another day 6 ft above the ground sure beats the alternative! Now where is my Martini?
Saturday, August 13, 2011
Wednesday, May 4, 2011
Just Checking in...
I just wanted to check in...I haven't blogged in a minute because I really havent been inspired to...But I enjoy it so I wanted my followers to know that I havent forgotten about you all! Here are some random fill in questions that I borrowed from Ms. Doris! :)
1.Have you and your spouse agreed to live in separate locations (a geographical bachelor tour) knowing that the short-term inconvenience would have long-term benefits for your family? How did it work for you? Malik and I have never agreed to live in separate locations simply because it has never been something that has been an real option. We know that he could possibly have to do a one year tour unaccompanied and we have discussed that. We have also had discussions about him volunteering for tour just so that we can have a base of preference when its over with. Untimately, I think that being seperated like that as a couple and family really is hard to do. I know people that have done it, survived and gone on with their lives none the worse for wear, but I also know those whose family has fallen apart. I think that if we were seriously considering this, the long term payoffs would have to be very substantial. However, I think alot of times that i would rather him "volunteer" for a tour and we be able to make the preparations etc than being "told" that he has to do one and not feeling like we have any control over our lives.
2. What is your favorite thing about being a MilSpouse? There are so many things that I love about being a mil spouse. I would have to say that the opportunity to move and meet so many people from different walks of life is so awesome! I have made some great friends that I can never replace and I owe that to the military taking me out of my element and plopping me in a new area. I think that being a Mil Spouse builds so much character and well roundedness inside you..
3. If you could still have your spouse/significant other and your family, but take the military life out of it…would you? I dont think i would...as hard as the military can be for us, and the amount of stress that we have dealt with in the past, I wouldnt trade it...I think we would miss out on so much more positive than negative...Like so many have said, our military lifestyle really has made us who we are as parents, partners and people,
4. What have your homecoming experiences been like after a year long tour of separation? I have not ever experienced a year long tour, but simply short TDYs and 6 month deployments. Its odd at first because you are excited to see each other, but you have to readjust alot of things. I think the military does a lot to help families cope with reintegrating members and their families. I know that its hard when you as the spouse have been taking care of everything and then all the sudden your hubby is back and your whole routine is messed up....I know the thing in particular that drove my husband nuts when he came back was that he forgot where things were located in the house like the scissors etc...
5. If you have a child(ren) why you chose their name(s)? If not, why you would name your child something? We have one son named Jaden...I actually chose the name because we could not agree on anything then in class one day a fellow student of mine said her sister had her baby and named him Jaden and I loved it...So thats what we went with...Now everybody and their sisters babies are named Jaden,Hayden,Caiden etc....But at least Jaden is spelled a bit differently than the norm JAYDEN....His middle name comes from a grandfather..My son who passed at 3 days of age was named Maximus...I love that name because to me it symbolizes strength...Thats a name that you have to live up to..You cant be a Maximus and be weak or of poor character. He also took Edward as his middle name from a grandfather.
1.Have you and your spouse agreed to live in separate locations (a geographical bachelor tour) knowing that the short-term inconvenience would have long-term benefits for your family? How did it work for you? Malik and I have never agreed to live in separate locations simply because it has never been something that has been an real option. We know that he could possibly have to do a one year tour unaccompanied and we have discussed that. We have also had discussions about him volunteering for tour just so that we can have a base of preference when its over with. Untimately, I think that being seperated like that as a couple and family really is hard to do. I know people that have done it, survived and gone on with their lives none the worse for wear, but I also know those whose family has fallen apart. I think that if we were seriously considering this, the long term payoffs would have to be very substantial. However, I think alot of times that i would rather him "volunteer" for a tour and we be able to make the preparations etc than being "told" that he has to do one and not feeling like we have any control over our lives.
2. What is your favorite thing about being a MilSpouse? There are so many things that I love about being a mil spouse. I would have to say that the opportunity to move and meet so many people from different walks of life is so awesome! I have made some great friends that I can never replace and I owe that to the military taking me out of my element and plopping me in a new area. I think that being a Mil Spouse builds so much character and well roundedness inside you..
3. If you could still have your spouse/significant other and your family, but take the military life out of it…would you? I dont think i would...as hard as the military can be for us, and the amount of stress that we have dealt with in the past, I wouldnt trade it...I think we would miss out on so much more positive than negative...Like so many have said, our military lifestyle really has made us who we are as parents, partners and people,
4. What have your homecoming experiences been like after a year long tour of separation? I have not ever experienced a year long tour, but simply short TDYs and 6 month deployments. Its odd at first because you are excited to see each other, but you have to readjust alot of things. I think the military does a lot to help families cope with reintegrating members and their families. I know that its hard when you as the spouse have been taking care of everything and then all the sudden your hubby is back and your whole routine is messed up....I know the thing in particular that drove my husband nuts when he came back was that he forgot where things were located in the house like the scissors etc...
5. If you have a child(ren) why you chose their name(s)? If not, why you would name your child something? We have one son named Jaden...I actually chose the name because we could not agree on anything then in class one day a fellow student of mine said her sister had her baby and named him Jaden and I loved it...So thats what we went with...Now everybody and their sisters babies are named Jaden,Hayden,Caiden etc....But at least Jaden is spelled a bit differently than the norm JAYDEN....His middle name comes from a grandfather..My son who passed at 3 days of age was named Maximus...I love that name because to me it symbolizes strength...Thats a name that you have to live up to..You cant be a Maximus and be weak or of poor character. He also took Edward as his middle name from a grandfather.
Friday, November 12, 2010
Day 9...Music for the Moods
For Boredom...I love me some Adele...She is such a talented Lass...Great voice...music that is a little bit of everything...Love, hurts, life, and happiness
When I am Hyped...Oh there are so many...I love me some Beyonce...very empowering..I love Pitbull...he gets me ready to shake a tail feather...I like David Guetta and all of his features with many artists like Kelly Rowland, etc. I also love me some Lil Wayne...He is crazy, weird lookin and always on something, and WAAY to gansta for me I know, but he is so dang talented...
When I am sad...There is one song that I always like to CRY my eyes out to...Literally..I put it on JUST to cry to it...And I found it by absolute mistake in a movie...I dont even know anything else by this artist! its Alright by Pilot Speed from the Movie Death Sentence...
30 dAYS OF ME...Days 7-8..Catch Up Time!
Like everyone else that I know, I am playing catch up with getting to know me...Life just gets busy sometimes, but I hope that everyone enjoys these latest tidbits!
Day 7...A picture of something that has made the biggest impact on your life...
This is going to be a typical one but in so many ways not typical...
There are lots of people that have made HUGE impacts on my life...my mom, my husband, my best friends...but these two have impacted me the most...they have changed my life in ways that I never knew would be possible..I think differently, I act differently, my goals and dreams are different...And so much more...So meet my two babies!
This is Jaden, Bobo, Turkey, Bo Chz...My baby...I cannot believe that he will be 7 years old in just a few short weeks....It makes me sad...Jaden changed my life in many of the ways that having a child changes anyone...But I think the greatest lessons that Jaden has brought to my life, is cherishing every moment...I am like any other parent, I get side tracked, I rush, I dont fully hear everything my child is telling me...But I can tell you there is no worse feeling than that of sitting down on your couch or laying in bed at night, and realizing that you were basically ignoring what your son was talking to you about because you were too busy doing something that doesnt even hold weight against your family...Jaden makes me want to be a better person...a better mom, a better wife, a better Christian and a better friend...A Better Listener..
This is my little angel baby Maximus Edward Calhoun...He was born on September 27, 2008 . I was only 26 weeks pregnant..Max was born weighing 1lb. 10 oz, and 13 inches long (he was going to be tall just like his daddy). Max died on September 30, 2008 in my arms. Max single handedly impacted my life more than anyone I will ever know...It doesnt matter how long you know someone, because even a few moments with them can change your life forever...make you love them for a lifetime and miss them for eternity...Max taught me that modern medicine does not determine your fate...They dont know EVERYTHING....they told me that he wouldnt cry when he came out because he was too little, well he did....They also told me that he had an 80% survival rate, but he died...Max also taught me to kiss more, to squeeze and hug tighter...To cry like a baby...it really does help...He also taught me how being strong doesnt mean that nothing ever affects you, but rather it means putting one foot in front of the other day after day, even though your heart is dying and your spirit is crushed...Max also gave me the greatest gift ever...The gift of HOPE...I know I didnt realize it until he came along and then left, but a life without HOPE is nothing at all...I dont want to live my life not HOPING...not hoping that people are good essentially, that we are all here for some purpose, that love is real, that family and friends are the only thing that matter, that even when you are told no, or thats impossible, or you are too old, too ugly, too fat, too dumb, not rich enough, not important enough...when LIFE, the WORLD, tells you to give up...beats you down...You get back up because you HOPE...because you hope. Thank you Maximus...Kiss and hug more...Be foolish and HOPE with all your heart.
Day 8...Short term Goals for this month/week
My goal is to really be discplined in going to the gym and not being nilly willy about what I am eating...i have been so bad for the last few months, and I have somehow managed to not gain any weight, but its like a monkey on my shoulder...Its there and if I keep going down this path, I will be VERY unhappy...So I have been going to the gym...Which makes me feel so much better, but I really need to work on my eating habits...I know that this is probably the worst time of year to start with...With Turkey Day being in two weeks...Man...I just am starting to believe that I have a love affair with food...I love to EAT...Happy, mad, bored, sad, anxious, busy...I always have time for some food...Good food...Its dangerous but I LOVE it...And honestly, I dont think there is anything wrong with that...Is there?! I mean everyone should have a passion in life...And eating is one of them...So maybe if i can become discplined in my exercise, then I can feel better about wanting to eat my whole plate, and Jadens plate, and probably the rest of your plate...Course it doesnt help that Harvey's is now serving a Devonshire Carrot Cake...Damn!
Day 7...A picture of something that has made the biggest impact on your life...
This is going to be a typical one but in so many ways not typical...
There are lots of people that have made HUGE impacts on my life...my mom, my husband, my best friends...but these two have impacted me the most...they have changed my life in ways that I never knew would be possible..I think differently, I act differently, my goals and dreams are different...And so much more...So meet my two babies!
This is Jaden, Bobo, Turkey, Bo Chz...My baby...I cannot believe that he will be 7 years old in just a few short weeks....It makes me sad...Jaden changed my life in many of the ways that having a child changes anyone...But I think the greatest lessons that Jaden has brought to my life, is cherishing every moment...I am like any other parent, I get side tracked, I rush, I dont fully hear everything my child is telling me...But I can tell you there is no worse feeling than that of sitting down on your couch or laying in bed at night, and realizing that you were basically ignoring what your son was talking to you about because you were too busy doing something that doesnt even hold weight against your family...Jaden makes me want to be a better person...a better mom, a better wife, a better Christian and a better friend...A Better Listener..
Day 8...Short term Goals for this month/week
My goal is to really be discplined in going to the gym and not being nilly willy about what I am eating...i have been so bad for the last few months, and I have somehow managed to not gain any weight, but its like a monkey on my shoulder...Its there and if I keep going down this path, I will be VERY unhappy...So I have been going to the gym...Which makes me feel so much better, but I really need to work on my eating habits...I know that this is probably the worst time of year to start with...With Turkey Day being in two weeks...Man...I just am starting to believe that I have a love affair with food...I love to EAT...Happy, mad, bored, sad, anxious, busy...I always have time for some food...Good food...Its dangerous but I LOVE it...And honestly, I dont think there is anything wrong with that...Is there?! I mean everyone should have a passion in life...And eating is one of them...So maybe if i can become discplined in my exercise, then I can feel better about wanting to eat my whole plate, and Jadens plate, and probably the rest of your plate...Course it doesnt help that Harvey's is now serving a Devonshire Carrot Cake...Damn!
Saturday, November 6, 2010
30 Days of Me...Day 6 FAVORITE SUPERHERO
BAM...KICK...SNAP...BOOOM...
Fave super hero...Batman hands down..I know he is considered the jerk amongst superheroes, and some dont even consider him a REAL superhero because he is really just a rich man with cool toys...But darn...He is one sexy man!
PS...I have ALWAYS thought that Batman should be played by a black man! LOL
Fave super hero...Batman hands down..I know he is considered the jerk amongst superheroes, and some dont even consider him a REAL superhero because he is really just a rich man with cool toys...But darn...He is one sexy man!
Tuesday, November 2, 2010
30 Days of Me Day # 5....A Picture of Somwhere I have been to
Being in the military, its so hard to compete with who has been to the coolest place...Because quite frankly, people travel alot...So we have all seen and been places that we NEVER wanted to be or that we have ALWAYS dreamed of seeing...So I had to hunt through my pics to really decide which place I wanted to give that honor to...So here it is...
This is a night shot of a street in Athens Greece...I chose Greece because it is by far one of the MOST gorgeous places that I have been...It outstrips Rome, Tuscany, Florence Milan...Paris..Yep even Paris...I think it was more the atmosphere of Athens than anything.My hubby sent me there for Valentines Day with some girlfriends, and it was AWESOME...
Anyone who has traveled in Italy or Europe period for that matter, knows that the countries are heavy with ruins and history..Greece was no exception..This is a shot of the Acropolis ...I think what intrigued me the most about Athens was that it was Rome, but Grecian..If that makes any sense...Life seemed more laid back, less frantic...And the views were breathtaking..I could literally imagine life back when philosophers lectured on marble steps and the Acropolis was the mecca of Greece...
These two are shots of what they began to find as they were digging to create their Subway system...As a result, Athens Subway is considered a Historical Site and Museum...
Picture of the Temple of Zeus...this is taken from a distance, but these pillars are like a horse...they look large from a distance, but once you get close to them, you realize just how GIANT they are...
The first Olympic Stadium...
More Ruins and Grecian Buildings...
And of course..the humorous part of our trip...
Me with a Beer...something I love no matter where in the world i am, but this one was particularly cold and frothy!
This gentleman discovered that we were Americans, and as I have so often found with Europeans etc, he proceeded to do the only thing that apparently we are famous for, which is the birthing of Michael Jackson...he shouted Greek to us, then hung his poor little doggy out of the window and screamed Michael Jackson...It made for some great entertainment,,Poor pooch...
And here is a shot of a WONDERFUL waffle that we had in a roadside Cafe..and even though the person that ordered it was VERY annoying and whiny, I thought it was AWESOME...PS Gessica if you EVER invite that person along again, I shall hang you out of the window Michael Jackson Style!
If you are ever VERY rich and lingering between seeing the Pyramids or going to Greece, let me make it easy for you...GREECE...I was there during February and the weather was perfect..not too cool and not too warm...However, the summer would make for a great time to island hop and lounge in the sun...The people are friendly and quaint...But beware..the language is quite literally GREEK..Its not readable, writable or speakable unless you know what the heck is going on...i spent the majority of my time feeling like i was in a world of frats/sororities with all the crazy letters and the other part drinking beer & explaining to other Greeks that I WAS not greek,...I just have a large nose and broad face from my mom...
Arrivederci! (Cause I dont know how to say shit in Greek!)
And of course..the humorous part of our trip...
And here is a shot of a WONDERFUL waffle that we had in a roadside Cafe..and even though the person that ordered it was VERY annoying and whiny, I thought it was AWESOME...PS Gessica if you EVER invite that person along again, I shall hang you out of the window Michael Jackson Style!
This last picture is my favorite...we literally took the off beaten path..hiked up stairs that were carved out of the mountains (along with seeing homes that were the same) and when we reached the top...this was our view..the sun was setting, the moon was becoming visible and it was quiet and gorgeous...There were homes that people had literally made out of the side of this mountain, and were still living in...the whole atmosphere was someplace that I still picture as my "tranquil spot"...I hope to return here someday with my husband in tow and take another picture from this exact spot...
Arrivederci! (Cause I dont know how to say shit in Greek!)
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
30 Days of Me Day # 4...A Habit I Wish I Didn't Have...
Wow..this is a loaded question...If you asked my hubby this about me he would probably say, "How about them Yankees?" lol....I have a few habits that I wish I didnt have...Read on Followers, Read on...
#1. I am a pimple POPPER...its gross, disgusting and horrible for dinner conversation, but it doesnt change the fact that I pop pimples...And sometimes get excited about it...And whats worse, is I dont just pop mine...I pop Maliks, I mentally pop other peoples and I think i will have to physically restrain myself from popping jadens when he hits his teenage years...This habit is so bad on my part, that I seriously consider from time to time becoming a dermatologist or estetician who only gives facials..I had a facial once at a spa (minds OUT of the gutter people) and she came up with such a lovely way to tell me she was going to pop some black heads on my nose...She was going to perform some "extractions" so now I call myself an "extraction specialist"...I know, I know..its nasty, it takes longer for them to heal, it can scar, it can spread other pimples...Preaching to the choir people...So I just do what I normally do when I cant control myself, blame it on Malik!
#2. When looking at any pictures, I flip or scroll through them very quickly, then I ALWAYS look at them at least another 2-4 times, SLOWLY...analyzing EVERYTHING about them..what the people are doing in the background, how my hair looks or clothes, my eyebrows, other peoples eyebrows...This has only recently developed in the last 6 years, which I fully believe has led to my inability to take ANY good pictures...I spend WAAAAaaaay too much time practicing smiles etc...So if you ever take a pic of me, I will probably make a silly face so that it doesnt get as much scrutiny as my normal smile! LOL
#2. When looking at any pictures, I flip or scroll through them very quickly, then I ALWAYS look at them at least another 2-4 times, SLOWLY...analyzing EVERYTHING about them..what the people are doing in the background, how my hair looks or clothes, my eyebrows, other peoples eyebrows...This has only recently developed in the last 6 years, which I fully believe has led to my inability to take ANY good pictures...I spend WAAAAaaaay too much time practicing smiles etc...So if you ever take a pic of me, I will probably make a silly face so that it doesnt get as much scrutiny as my normal smile! LOL
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#3. Probably my most serious habit is PROCRASTINATION...that explains why I am 28 yrs old, dont have a college degree, have no IDEA what I want to be when I grow up, why I have TWO cat litter boxes instead of one, why I always scramble for birthday gifts etc., why my digital camera still has pictures on it from months ago, and I never send out Christmas cards! But you know, I have come to understand, that maybe i am too negative...too down on myself...Maybe its not Procrastination, but rather i like to FLY BY THE SEAT of my PANTS!
I once read somewhere from those people that always say popped pimples scar, standing with your legs crossed minimizes your hips and thighs in pictures, and a marker board with a calendar on it will organize your life....that your 20's are about finding yourself...discovering who you really are and becoming comfortable with it...And now in my "middle age woman" years of 28, I am finding that its not necessarily becoming comfortable with yourself (I honestly wont think I will feel that way until I am able to wear a moo moo in public and eat whatever I want everyday) but more of NOT CARING what others think...This is me people...Raw and real...I am not embarrassed about it (and most women arent after a room full of men has watched a baby come out of your crotch) and I really dont think it will change...Just please, DONT tell Malik that! :>)
Tuesday, October 26, 2010
30 Days of Me Day #3
Pictures of me and my friends...
These are my girls from Montana...the ones that I went to high school with...They are the friends that no matter the time or distance, we love and care for each other and share in each others lives...We have a 10 year reunion coming up next Spring, and I cannot wait to see all of them!
These are my girlies from Montana too...My Breaks Girls...I have know Miss Amanda for YEARS..since before I graduated from high school..Kassie & Mandy are a bit younger but two awesome peeps...and then there is Miss Heidi O...She just recently had a baby and I love knowing that she has become such a doting mommy! I miss all of these crazies and cant wait to see them again!
Here are some of my girlies from Italy..They are a funny crew...this pic should tell you that..most of all, they are women that share the same lifestyle that I have..Moms & Military Wives trying to keep their sanity There is Miss Doris- who has an awesome sense of humor and is wonderfully stylish..then there is Anne who is quite sarcastic and funny and I cant help but love it, There is Trish who is such a tomboy in personality, but is such a sweetie and very real..Miss Nicole, we met late in my stint at Aviano, but we share a bond that comes through great tragedy...I truly believe that God put us in touch with each other to have someone to relate to...Then of course, is CHERRRRLLL...Funny, godly and supportive...A great friend who has always been encouraging and funny...And last but not least...cut off at the bottom, is Michelle...My party drinking buddy...Fun and adventerous...And willing to try new things!...I really hope that we will all meet up somewhere soon in our husbands careers...:>(
This Crazy Mexican lady is my BFF Sara...She is one crazy chick, but relates to me in so many ways...she is a great mommy, wonderful wife and spectacular friend...She understands things without them having to be said...she is always picking me up when I need it and I miss her so VERY much!
This is Gessica and me at the Hard Rock in Athens, Greece. Gess is such a fun loving person...her hubby and her became good friends to Malik and I are last few months in Italy...We miss them alot, and appreciate their friendship!
Here is Jaimie and me in Athens Greece...Jaimie was my work buddy...I loved being able to go upstairs and talk to her for a few minutes out of my day..She made my time in the office enjoyable..Plus we had a blast in Greece!
Here is Mrs Carstens...Jen is a friend that we made almost instantly...Literally on the Rotator over from the States to Italy..Her hubby and son were on the same plane...We came to Italy at the same time and left at the same time..Jen introduced me to BUNCO, Wine and good times...I miss her upfront and loving Southern nature!
I have realized that I have WAAAy too many good friends and by far not enough pictures...I am missing so many..Like miss Brandi and Alli..two sweethearts who mean the world to me..They are good friends who have always been there for me! And of course my crazy BFF number 2, Melissa...She is such a rational intelligent woman, who has constantly shown me how strong and supportive she is of me...And she taught me how to engrave!
Regardless of whether your picture is on here or not, all my friends know who they are...Please know that I appreciate your realness, your love and for making memories in my life!
I have realized that I have WAAAy too many good friends and by far not enough pictures...I am missing so many..Like miss Brandi and Alli..two sweethearts who mean the world to me..They are good friends who have always been there for me! And of course my crazy BFF number 2, Melissa...She is such a rational intelligent woman, who has constantly shown me how strong and supportive she is of me...And she taught me how to engrave!
Regardless of whether your picture is on here or not, all my friends know who they are...Please know that I appreciate your realness, your love and for making memories in my life!
Sunday, October 24, 2010
30 Days of Me Day #2
The meaning behind my blog name...Bits and Bites just came to me really..it sounds catchy and really just lets you know before you read, that you are going to get "Bits" and "Bites" of my mundane life....I suppose on a deeper level it can really represent what we all go through in life...the good and the bad...the "Bits" that we leave with those that we love, those that we cherish...And the "Bites" that are taken from us, that knock us down, take our breath away and make us cry....While I hope that I blog way more about Bits, I know that Bites are a part of life, and sometimes sharing that pain with others, helps immensely.
So, in true blogger spirit, and to make this a little more interesting on Day #2, here are some Bits and Bites from my life...Enjoy!
Bits
I am very fortunate in one BIG bit of my life, and thats in my husband...Those of you that know Moose, know what a funny and charming man he is...But what you may not know, is what I see on a daily basis behind closed doors....Malik is everything that I could ask for in a husband and best friend...He listens, he cares, and he makes me laugh...At one point and time in my life, I was VERY lonely, and really just did not know what God held for me in the way of companionship...To me the outlook was very bleak...Relationships seemed to be something that were a constant downer, and being a single mom makes it 10X harder...To top it off, I just couldnt see myself ever really being married, because I didnt really know what that connection would be like that would make any person want to grow old with the same face every day...I thought that I knew what I wanted in a partner, and it always seemed that the people I was dating, just needed "one" more thing to make them perfect....Malik came along, and truly has shown me that God knows what is best us all...He possesses so many qualities that I wasnt even aware that I would need in order to be happy...Malik and I have been through more in the last 4 years than most couples do in a lifetime...Me moving from MT, and moving in with Malik ASAP, even though that wasnt the plan...Malik becoming a Dad instantly...A whirlwind marriage in order to be able to stay together through an international move, a deployment not even a year into our marriage, then the loss of a son during our second year of marriage...Through this all, we have grown stronger...Malik has a huge BIT of me, and I cherish him everyday...Malik is someone who I can laugh, cry, yell and make a fool of myself with and feel at heart that he doesnt love me any less because of it...He is a BIT to my life, because he demonstrates unconditional love...No expectations, no boundaries, no rules....Just his hand in mine :>)
BITES
I have had quite a few BITES in my short lifetime, as most of us have...Once you step outside the domain of your parents house, you learn quite literally how harsh the real world is, and how little you actually knew, despite how much you thought you knew...Money comes and goes (most of the time GOING) and bills dont...Those that you thought you would be best friends with forever, slowly drift off into their own lives, Highschool really was much more fun than working everyday, even if you do have your own apartment...Getting stoned was much cooler and more entertaining when you were in school..And boys still suck until they are 40....I have had a lot more serious BITES that have made me not want to get out of bed....sucked the joy out of my body, changed my whole world in a matter of minutes..What I have learned through all of my life scars, is that some things are truly not worth worrying about...Its hard, its easier said than done...I know...But life is so short, so precious, that everything cannot be alloted the same time and dedication ...I am a huge fan of "brushing" your shoulders off....This is not to say that I dont get stressed, or that I am not a worry wart..In face it takes alot in me to brush things off....But allowing the things people say, or what they might think to rent space in your mind is a dangerous and silly practice...Spend your tears, love, sweat and mind on the things that will matter in 6 months or a year...Mourn those who you lose, love those you have, sweat the important things, and mind that you dont forget to remember BITS when you are in the middle of BITES....
So, in true blogger spirit, and to make this a little more interesting on Day #2, here are some Bits and Bites from my life...Enjoy!
Bits
I am very fortunate in one BIG bit of my life, and thats in my husband...Those of you that know Moose, know what a funny and charming man he is...But what you may not know, is what I see on a daily basis behind closed doors....Malik is everything that I could ask for in a husband and best friend...He listens, he cares, and he makes me laugh...At one point and time in my life, I was VERY lonely, and really just did not know what God held for me in the way of companionship...To me the outlook was very bleak...Relationships seemed to be something that were a constant downer, and being a single mom makes it 10X harder...To top it off, I just couldnt see myself ever really being married, because I didnt really know what that connection would be like that would make any person want to grow old with the same face every day...I thought that I knew what I wanted in a partner, and it always seemed that the people I was dating, just needed "one" more thing to make them perfect....Malik came along, and truly has shown me that God knows what is best us all...He possesses so many qualities that I wasnt even aware that I would need in order to be happy...Malik and I have been through more in the last 4 years than most couples do in a lifetime...Me moving from MT, and moving in with Malik ASAP, even though that wasnt the plan...Malik becoming a Dad instantly...A whirlwind marriage in order to be able to stay together through an international move, a deployment not even a year into our marriage, then the loss of a son during our second year of marriage...Through this all, we have grown stronger...Malik has a huge BIT of me, and I cherish him everyday...Malik is someone who I can laugh, cry, yell and make a fool of myself with and feel at heart that he doesnt love me any less because of it...He is a BIT to my life, because he demonstrates unconditional love...No expectations, no boundaries, no rules....Just his hand in mine :>)
BITES
I have had quite a few BITES in my short lifetime, as most of us have...Once you step outside the domain of your parents house, you learn quite literally how harsh the real world is, and how little you actually knew, despite how much you thought you knew...Money comes and goes (most of the time GOING) and bills dont...Those that you thought you would be best friends with forever, slowly drift off into their own lives, Highschool really was much more fun than working everyday, even if you do have your own apartment...Getting stoned was much cooler and more entertaining when you were in school..And boys still suck until they are 40....I have had a lot more serious BITES that have made me not want to get out of bed....sucked the joy out of my body, changed my whole world in a matter of minutes..What I have learned through all of my life scars, is that some things are truly not worth worrying about...Its hard, its easier said than done...I know...But life is so short, so precious, that everything cannot be alloted the same time and dedication ...I am a huge fan of "brushing" your shoulders off....This is not to say that I dont get stressed, or that I am not a worry wart..In face it takes alot in me to brush things off....But allowing the things people say, or what they might think to rent space in your mind is a dangerous and silly practice...Spend your tears, love, sweat and mind on the things that will matter in 6 months or a year...Mourn those who you lose, love those you have, sweat the important things, and mind that you dont forget to remember BITS when you are in the middle of BITES....
Saturday, October 23, 2010
30 Days of Me...
Okay...so I have been suckered into the 30 days about me..Although, I am already 4 days behind with some other bloggers...but i will start with day one! Enjoy :)
15 Things About Me
#1...Although I am considered to be really funny and outgoing, I am really a hermit
#2.. I am an undercover CONTROL freak...My biggest fears always basically come down to the same thing, not being able to "tell" or "control" what is going to happen
#3...I never wanted to be a mom...in high school one of my girlfriends had a baby our senior year, and I refused to hold her!
#4...I LOVE red beers...thats a bud lite with plain ol Tomato Juice...I get it from my momma!
#5... I dont worry about wrinkles or age spots...but I worry to death about my butt starting to sag or cellulite taking over the backs of my thighs!
#6...I wish I could get Laser Eye Surgery and some Veneers for my teeth! LOL
#7...I have nice things, love to dress nicely, LOVE to shop, but I sometimes think I could just be happy having a plain, simple life and not worry about working etc...(Like growing everything we eat, milking cows etc)
#8...I have been told by almost every friend that I have had that I am strong person, but sometimes I dont want to be strong..
#9....I used to think that I would wear sports Bras for the rest of my life, because I didnt want to be too girly
#10... I havent ever completed college because I cannot decide what I want to do with my life...I ALSO get that from my momma
#11...Dogs gross me out...
#12...I think pregnancy should affect EVERY womans body the same way, so that these skinny women with no stretch marks or sagging boobies, wouldnt exist!
#13...I LOVE to read...It all blossomed from my experience as a 1st grader, and NOT being able to read, and being so humiliated...From that day forward, I dedicated myself to becoming the best, fastest reader in class...And that still happens today...I can read books fast enough to make your head spin!
#14...I only wash my hair about 3 times a week...It gets waaay too dry if I do it otherwise, and has no body or style..
#15...When I was in highschool, I gave up meat and soda,...The meat came back, but the Soda didnt, as a result I drink a gallon to a gallon and a half of water a day.
Wednesday, October 20, 2010
Hmmm...First Blog
Well...this is strange--but so many people are doing it and being a military family, and someone who personally does not ENJOY talking on the phone, I am hoping that this blog will serve as a way for our family to keep up with our family and friends--Near and Far!
Just a quick update for all of our peeps--We are now living in North Mississippi...The South is truly something else, with all its quirks and slowness...But I find the people endearing and very good hearted. Jaden has adjusted to school--although the days of "can't wait until I have Homework" are long gone...He is now in the 1st Grade and is doing VERY well...He recently made the Deans List (i know--wasnt aware there was such a thing at his age) and is reading at a 2nd grade level...He finished up his Flag Football Season at the end of September, and is now full blown into soccer, which he has taken to like a fish to water...(was that a Southern saying?!)
Malik is doing well...He has really grown in his career with all of the new experiences that he has been able to gain from this small base...The pace of work is much better and waaaay less stressful for him, and ultimately for our family...He recently got back from TX where he was in a month long course in becoming the Kennel Master for the K-9 Section here...Now that may change! HA...all my military peeps know what that means...
And finally, Myself...well...I have been working about 40 jobs...and trying to get my foot in the door anywhere I can...I have long since learned that its not about WHAT i know, but about WHO i know...so I am trying, but I dont make a good butt kisser...I am not going to the gym or working out anymore...just thought I would report that...maybe making it public will motivate me to get back on the wagon...Probably not--but its a worth a shot...And I have really taken a liking to sweets...ummm...despite all this, my pants seem to be fitting a bit LESS tight, so maybe I should have taken this approach a LONG time ago...I miss all of our Aviano friends very much...Its very true that you really dont know what you have until its gone...Making friends state side is so much harder...Everyone is already established and really does not mess around with the base, so itsbeen a challenge, but one that I am sure I will overcome..Hopefully we will meet some friends that are close to our age, because all of my coworkers are literally making me crazy reminding me how "old" I am...they even had me so paranoid, that I walked around for a good week having a mini life crisis because I thought I was about to be 30 in August..Luckily my friend Brooke set me straight and I remembered I was only going to be 28...(Note to all: I am still too old to join the Air Force however, trust me I tried)...Anyways, as I bobble around in this small southern town, looking for a job and throwing out the idea of school, landscaper or cake maker, I appreciate more and more every day those that love me for who I am and have always supported my decisions in life regardless of the outcome...Love to all! :>)
Just a quick update for all of our peeps--We are now living in North Mississippi...The South is truly something else, with all its quirks and slowness...But I find the people endearing and very good hearted. Jaden has adjusted to school--although the days of "can't wait until I have Homework" are long gone...He is now in the 1st Grade and is doing VERY well...He recently made the Deans List (i know--wasnt aware there was such a thing at his age) and is reading at a 2nd grade level...He finished up his Flag Football Season at the end of September, and is now full blown into soccer, which he has taken to like a fish to water...(was that a Southern saying?!)
Malik is doing well...He has really grown in his career with all of the new experiences that he has been able to gain from this small base...The pace of work is much better and waaaay less stressful for him, and ultimately for our family...He recently got back from TX where he was in a month long course in becoming the Kennel Master for the K-9 Section here...Now that may change! HA...all my military peeps know what that means...
And finally, Myself...well...I have been working about 40 jobs...and trying to get my foot in the door anywhere I can...I have long since learned that its not about WHAT i know, but about WHO i know...so I am trying, but I dont make a good butt kisser...I am not going to the gym or working out anymore...just thought I would report that...maybe making it public will motivate me to get back on the wagon...Probably not--but its a worth a shot...And I have really taken a liking to sweets...ummm...despite all this, my pants seem to be fitting a bit LESS tight, so maybe I should have taken this approach a LONG time ago...I miss all of our Aviano friends very much...Its very true that you really dont know what you have until its gone...Making friends state side is so much harder...Everyone is already established and really does not mess around with the base, so itsbeen a challenge, but one that I am sure I will overcome..Hopefully we will meet some friends that are close to our age, because all of my coworkers are literally making me crazy reminding me how "old" I am...they even had me so paranoid, that I walked around for a good week having a mini life crisis because I thought I was about to be 30 in August..Luckily my friend Brooke set me straight and I remembered I was only going to be 28...(Note to all: I am still too old to join the Air Force however, trust me I tried)...Anyways, as I bobble around in this small southern town, looking for a job and throwing out the idea of school, landscaper or cake maker, I appreciate more and more every day those that love me for who I am and have always supported my decisions in life regardless of the outcome...Love to all! :>)
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